I am someone who has really high expectations. I have high expectations of myself. I have high expectation of others. Because of this reality, I have amassed a few tips and tricks to manage expectations.
Take the wait and see approach before jumping to conclusions. At times, the first conclusion that I make isn’t the best one. Taking this approach will allow me to take a suboptimal conclusion and think it through before I act on it.
Understand that people who are busy will not be physically able to fulfill expectations. Not the ones that you have. Not the ones that they may set for themselves. Usually, I rather not believe that a busy person will return a call or will call at a certain time because having that expectation and them not fulfilling them is an unnecessary frustration to go through.
There are times where I know that the reason that a person is not performing to expectations is because they are incompetent in that area. This isn’t necessarily a knock on the person. It could be that the person doesn’t have the personality or the character to do what I expect at times. It could be that the person doesn’t know how to go about a situation. It could be that the person doesn’t have the skillset to fulfill an expectation. Whatever the reason is, classifying a person as incompetent serves two purposes:
- I can reduce the amount of frustration I get with someone’s lack of performance.
- I can move on and look to other places to satisfy a need that I have.
This is something that can actually benefit the person that gets the label because that means that the interactions become better since there is no frustration in the interaction. It also relieves the pressure for that person to perform to a standard that they are not able to keep.
A lot of times, the best thing to do is to not put an expectation on anyone and just use the internet to find exactly what you are looking for. It is, for the most part, reliable. It does require critical thinking and picking the sources well. Most of the big changes that God has had me go through in life have happened because God has used the things that I have searched on the internet to start the process needed to get the change going.