In my almost constant processing of ideas, I came across this idea that people are not just touchy feely or not touchy feely. That these two status of human preference can be just two opposites of a spectrum. There can be people that are touchy but not feely and people who are not touchy but are feely. But what do I mean by all these concepts?
I must point out that I am referring to preferences about physical contact here. Touchy is used to indicate someone who just has to put their hands on people. Feely is more tricky to define, because it can mean someone who likes to feel the other person (usually what feely means in this context) but it might be used in the context of someone that is stimulated from receiving physical contact. So for the sake of this post, I will try to identify the context of feely… or try to use both.
Touchy feely: Someone who just has to put their hands on people and feel them. Someone who just has to put their hands on people and have people put their hands on him/her.
Touchy but not feely: Someone who just has to put their hands on people but doesn’t want to spend much time exploring the other person’s body, especially in the context of a normal conversation. Someone who just has to put their hands on people but doesn’t want that in return.
Not touchy but feely: Someone who doesn’t have a preference of putting their hands on people but when he/she does they like to explore what they touch. Someone who prefers not to put their hands on people but gets stimulated when someone else puts their hands on them.
Neither touchy nor feely: Someone who prefers not to put their hands on people much less explore what they touch. Someone who prefers not to put their hands on people and doesn’t feel any stimulation when people put their hands on them.
I think that these categories can be placed in a spectrum of people’s preference. I think that one person can change preferences at different moments in their life and with specific persons that they trust. Maybe there is a possibility that at the end of one’s life we could have had each preference at one point or another; with different people that we meet. I am not sure, but my second preliminary analysis of this topic seems to suggest that it’s so. Maybe that’s normal and the binary of touchy feely/not touchy feely that I think that I have been sold was either an imagined concept or a real concept that doesn’t reflect what was really going on.