My ideal self… is there such a thing? As an INTJ, I analyze everything. My thoughts, ideas, ideals, and conclusions are no exception. What is my ideal self? Or better said: What do I ideally want to be? A question that has been in my mind for a while, but hasn’t been answered as sincerely as I would have liked. But really: Is it what I would like to be or is it the optimum manifestation of my true self?
What should I refer my ideal self as? He, She, something else? I decided to call my ideal self It. Why? For one, because I want to. Second of all, I do not think my ideal self should be restricted gender-wise, even though I attribute it a masculine presenting. A gendered ideal self is restraining and I want to choose the ideal person that is right for me, whatever that is.
My ideal self is:
- A masculine self.
- Has self control.
- Protector of that which is important.
- A wise and intellectual Christian INTJ-A comedian.
- It’s own person.
- It is viewed as the ideal self.
- At peace with itself.
- Uncensored and free of judgement.
- Awesome looking.
- Full of awesome thoughts and ideas.
- Able to say the right thing at the right time.
- Able to work through its weakness.
- Like Jesus.
When I compare this list with who I am in reality, I see that my ideal self is more than what I am and less than what I am at the same time. It is healthy and righteous.
I want to be my ideal self, but I don’t think that my best efforts will get me close to becoming it. My ideal self is too high a standard for me to keep (typical INTJ). I dream of someday becoming my ideal self without ever having the expectation of achieving it.