How do I know when I’m telling the truth and when I’m telling a lie? That depends on what is being talked about.
- When I’m talking about facts, a lie is said when the facts aren’t cited correctly.
- When I’m talking about a memory, a lie is said when what I said isn’t consistent with the memory,
- When I’m talking about a feeling, a lie is said when I immediately question what I said.
Why is this topic important to me? As an INTJ I believe that it’s important to have a morality that is my own, whatever that means. So as a christian that comes from a christian family that has taught that lying was good in certain contexts, I saw that what my family was teaching was against what I perceived (and the Bible state) that was wrong. That made me have to make a decision when I was in high school that I was going to do everything in my power to not lie.
As much as I try not to lie, I end up failing for the reasons mentioned above. When I find out that I lied, I feel guilty because I failed. Sometimes it happens and I feel that I can’t avoid it, because in my mind I’m telling the truth but when I speak I can’t state what in my mind correctly: I end up lying. This makes me realize that what I really have is not necessarily a lying problem but a speaking problem. The probability that my inconsistency with correct expression of my thoughts is one of my weakness is relatively high. So maybe what I should focus on is not 100% on not lying but on speaking the truth that is in my mind.