This is only my experience and thoughts in this area. It is not meant to represent all INTJs. I don’t know them all.
I can’t say that I crave being loyal to someone or something. I haven’t thought about it enough to be certain about that statement. I can say that I am not opposed to showing loyalty to someone, something, or an organization. This loyalty is not given, though. It is earned.
If I think about where has my loyalty been focused on, it is not put in people necessarily. I am willing to be loyal to whoever has a certain set of morals and beliefs. I am willing to be loyal to whoever has the same goals that I have. I am willing to be loyal to those that have earned my respect.
My loyalty is expressed by my being present around those who I am loyal to. My loyalty is shown by my desire to back them up in whatever cause they have… even if it does cause some inconvenience or discomfort. My loyalty is shown when I take their side in whatever conflict that arises.
I am not loyal to someone because they have a position. I am not loyal to someone because I am told that I need to be loyal to someone. As an INTJ, I would be the first to question my motives for loyalty and would stop being loyal to someone or something if I find that these are the reasons for loyalty.
I am loyal to something when it is aligned with my beliefs. I am loyal to something that offers the space for me to develop and grow as a person. I am loyal to something that shows potential for improvement from my efforts. I don’t want to waste energy, time, and effort on being loyal to something that I then find out that it ain’t worth it.
I do want to be considered as someone worthy of other’s loyalty at some point. I think that it would be the biggest privilege because it means that I can be a positive influence in their lives. Yet I know that it is the biggest responsibility that I can have as a person: that God puts in my hands a certain aspect of someone else’s development. I don’t want someone else’s loyalty if it’s not founded on a solid base. I want for other people’s loyalty to be based on an informed decision. I shouldn’t expect other people’s loyalty if I am in a position of leadership if I am not loyal to something… to someone.
At the same time, if I am a leader I should be loyal to those that I develop. It may or may not look like Coulson of Marvel Agents of Shield or Gibbs from NCIS, but I haven’t dedicated enough time to this to say it with 100% certainty.